He was talking about his story—how he wasn’t from Portland originally; how he was initially so hesitant to leave his comfort zone and move to new places even though he felt a strong pull to do so. That would mean seeking out new work, new friends, a new place to live. He had built up the change so much in his head: “How could I ever make it work?”
His manageable-in-hindsight story stuck with me, because I do the same thing. I build things up in my head. I overcomplicate certain decisions. When really all I have to do is take the next step. It never feels like it at the time, but things find a way of working out. And wherever you go, there you are.
What if I’m making a mistake? What if my work/life balance is actually better where I am now; what if I miss where I was; what if I can’t handle it? “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t,” right? But how true is that, really? I’ve never found “what if’s” to be particularly helpful. You either try something, and find out, or don’t try, and never know.